Monday, July 14, 2008
The Wall Street Journal Takes On Shidduch Dating, But This Time For Real
To put in mildly, I'm not happy with the column, though I'm having a hard time articulating exactly why. I guess I don't like having our dirty laundry aired in the secular press. We come across looking like idiots.
What did you think of it?
That's only true if you know nothing about Orthodox Judaism. Understanding the context, it's not so nuts. The context may be nuts though, though that's not the issue.
(Not to say it isn't nuts from an inside one as well -- many orthos seem to complain about it.)
We complain, but I haven't heard a single person come up with an idea that will result in a greater number of successful marriages. That's all that matters at the end of the day.
I think the shidduch system particularly fails to ensure sexual compatibility, but it also fails to ensure all sorts of other compatibilities due to the short and unnatural courtship period.
Not that OJs are as bad as, for example, Southern Baptists.
The System in theory can and has worked, but the article paints an accurate picture of its current incarnation.
I'm not happy with the column, though I'm having a hard time articulating exactly why.
Pinnochio, you know exactly why you're not happy with it...you said it yourself
We come across looking like idiots
Exactly, and sometimes the truth hits too close for comfort.
It's a classic case of "I can make fun of my family but don't YOU dare".